Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power

Existential Kink presents a cutting-edge form of shadow integration and a bold advance in the alchemy of the psyche, establishing a process and an approach to life that’s already dramatically changed the lives of thousands of people for the way-better.

Identify Unconscious, Taboo Desires – Make Them Conscious with Approval

– So They Lose Their Power to Shape Your Life.

Here’s a little-known truth: we humans don’t just have bedroom kinks (like the desire to have your partner pull your hair during a hot kiss).

We have existential kinks, unconscious desires to experience painful things in life.

Without us realizing it, these unconscious desires guide our decisions and shape our lives, magnetizing us to hard situations again and again.

Most people don’t realize that a huge part of creating lasting positive change involves shamelessly admitting to ourselves that at a deep, hidden level – we feel attracted to and even derive taboo enjoyment from the “awful” stuff in our experience like scarcity, rejection, and humiliation.

These are facts of the human psyche.

These facts were well-known to the founding pioneers of psychology – Freud, Jung, Lacan – but they’ve been suppressed and ignored by the popular self-help industry because these facts of the human psyche are so, so offensive to most people’s egos.

A Rapid, Sexy, and Fun Method

for Undoing Negative Situations So You Can
Get What You Really Want in Life

EXISTENTIAL KINK is a meditation method for dealing with adversity that’s extremely weird, delightful, and effective.

The book presents a completely fresh take on exactly how you manifest and co-create your reality. It’s a perspective grounded in pioneering psychology.

It goes so far beyond “The Secret” that your head will spin.

EXISTENTIAL KINK explores the notion that all of us humans have disowned, taboo unconscious desires for “bad stuff.” By making these desires (and the “bad” results that they create) conscious through kinky celebration, we can become much more whole, happy, and powerful.

Who Should Read EXISTENTIAL KINK

EXISTENTIAL KINK is for anyone interested in making profound positive changes in their lives by embracing their kinky dark side.

The book is a major hit in the coaching, somatic therapy, and spiritual arts communities, a favorite with high-powered professionals, and also beloved by ordinary folks looking to heal their lives.

EXISTENTIAL KINK is especially for you if you love magick and manifestation, as it gives a lucid, mind-blowing explanation of the way these mysterious processes work.

What They’re Saying about The Existential Kink

What a fabulous book.
Carolyn artfully combined her extensive academic and spiritual knowledge with a fun, approachable and fluid writing to guide you through your realm of shadows. As she keeps pointing out and I couldn’t agree more, enlightenment is about making the darkness visible, to loosely paraphrase papa Jung. This book shows you the way. The technique is fun and pleasurable.
On average, we have no idea who we are. Existential kink is going to help you to shamelessly acknowledge your true self. In doing that, you’ll seamlessly slide into perfect cosmic synchronicity and life becomes an exciting adventure.

Everyone should be reading this book, but I especially recommend it to the true seekers of the truth, to the brave and rebellious ones who would attain godhood themselves.

NOW WE WANT THE MONEY BOOK, CAROLYN!

Tamires Paezani

Amazing book; one of the bests in my life ; if u know deep down your a kinky person and want to face it : )

Karolina

An essential read for anyone who is looking for a different, revolutionary & direct path to healing, growth & expansion.

Rachel F

“Existential Kink” doesn’t just scratch the surface; it digs deep into the layers of the human psyche, encouraging readers to explore their desires, fears, and fantasies. The author’s bold perspective on merging pleasure with personal growth challenges conventional thinking and opens the door to a new realm of self-discovery.

Anna Leigh Leighton

The gift of this book is raw honesty & clarity with yourself.

Mariam

This helped me deep dive into my unconscious and unpack some of the things I’ve been suppressing that is keeping me from achieving my desires. This book helped me realize much more than I have before!

Abby R Neville

I had been living like a monk in a monastery for many years working on my inner awareness, shadow, and self-knowledge. I had turned off my sexual desire for the other and lived in total control of my self pleasure with a wild imagination and my plug-in boyfriend.

One weekend, it was like magick conspired to bring the last lingering vestige of me to the forefront in an Everything Everywhere All At Once fashion. My sexualness had been waiting in the wings for its turn in the spotlight, and it was not going quietly back into the good night. Existential Kink was the final straw of the whirlwind that hit me upside the head in the most awe-inspiring way possible. It came like the emphasis an exclamation point brings at the end of a sentence. I have done so much self-acceptance work that this book feels like my thesis for a PhD in self care has been approved and now it’s time to go out and tackle a whole new world of kinky existence. I accept the challenge and move forward as an eager student waiting to see how the story unfolds.

Wendy

“Carolyn is it – even if you fully understand everything she’s talking about beforehand, she takes an approach that’s refreshingly intelligent in a sea of wishy-washy fluffy bunnies – and, she gives you the no bullshit version.”

Bm 6

“Carolyn reminds me of a cross between Maleficent and the Blue Fairy Godmother from Sleeping Beauty.”

BM 3

The Guide Leading Your Journey

Carolyn Lovewell, Ph.D., co-founder of Sleep Over Mystery School, and the Electric Yes Coaching Community, helps people unite their will, wield power, and amass wealth of all kinds via shadow integration and the Hermetic Arts.

Carolyn earned a doctorate in Critical and Cultural Studies at the University of Pittsburgh. Through popular online courses and in-person ritual initiation, Carolyn teaches thousands of people how to change their lives for the way-better. She currently directs the Immortal College, an alchemical community for leaders.

5 Essential Concepts You Will Learn from

With this text, you’ll unlock the power of these essential lessons:

How to Let Go of The Blame Game

“What do you mean I want this ‘awful’ thing? Are you victim-blaming me?! How dare you even suggest that some hidden part of me enjoys this terrible stuff I’m experiencing!”

Well, would you rather not be offended, or would you rather experience profound positive change in your life?

EXISTENTIAL KINK is not about victim-blaming.

It’s far worse than that: it’s about no-one blaming.

This is ‘far worse’ because our culture loves to blame. But blame is pointless, and it doesn’t help in healing. Indeed, blame only drives taboo desires deeper into the unconscious, where they continue to create dark circumstances.

How to Stop Pretending You’re Not Already Enlightened

EXISTENTIAL KINK is about coming to realize the divine truth of who we all are, how we create painful stuff both personally and collectively, and how we can access actual deep forgiveness and gratitude so that we can create much more beautiful experiences for ourselves and others in the future.

The Kinky, Tantric, Witchy Way to Get Everything You Want

In reading the EXISTENTIAL KINK book, we learn how to embrace the repressed, tabooed, and often-unwanted aspects of ourselves so we can discover our inner power and finally live the life we deserve. As the book says: “We always get exactly what we want; but often, though we may not be aware of it, what we most want is dark—very dark.”

How to Dissolve All The Stuck Situations In Your Life

Our EXISTENTIAL KINK, i.e., our taboo and unconscious attraction to “bad stuff” – drives the negative repeating patterns in our life: always choosing the abusive partner or boss, settling for less, thinking that we’re undeserving, not worthy.

But our EXISTENTIAL KINK also is the source of our greatest power – because when we make it conscious by “getting off on it” – we liberate huge stores of energy that we can use to re-create our lives exactly as we want them.

How to Turn Your ‘Guilty Pleasure’ Into Raw Power

EXISTENTIAL KINK provides practical advice and meditations, so we truly see our shadow side’s “guilty pleasures,” love and accept them, and integrate them into our whole being. By doing so, author Carolyn Lovewell, Ph.D., shows we bring to life the raw, hot, glorious power we all have to get what we really want in our lives.

Unmask your Shadow Today

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